17-year old Marche Taylor had a dress custom made for her prom at Madison High. When she showed up at the door, she was denied admittance because a school official said the gown was too skimpy for the school sponsored event and violated school dress code.
Taylor and her friends tried to wrap her dress around her and pin it in place to provide more covering; however, the girl alleges school official then told her she still wasn’t going to be allowed in because she didn’t have any undergarments on.
Taylor said she was furious and demanded that the money she paid for the prom tickets be returned to her. The arguing apparently got out of hand and someone called the police who led Taylor away in handcuffs.
The teen spent the night in jail.
Full report available at CBS4 in Miami.
I support the schools decision since the dress length and alleged lack of underwear would have ensured more than one Britney Spears moment. I also think it’s important to note she did not get tossed into jail because of her dress – but due to the argument that followed.
The thing is: Taylor’s dress design was nothing groundbreaking. It was actually based on the best-selling (and now infamous) Xcite prom dress, style #376. This means Taylor is not the first girl to wear this dress, although hers might have been a shorter version.
This bugs me.
You know, teen years for girls are a dangerous period anymore. They face a “crisis in confidence” which makes them vulnerable to risky behavior – and they do need guidance throughout this period. They need a mother, other family member or mentor to step up and say, “There’s no way in hell you’re walking out the door in that get-up.”
Fewer parents are willing to say this. In fact, many mothers think such attire expresses self-confidence and a positive body image. I say that’s a crock of shit. For young girl to parade around half-naked is not confidence: it’s a misguided search for attention and reassurance.
And our tendency to accept or at times encourage our girls to dress revealingly implies we approve of the warped focus society places on their body or that receiving attention by parading around half-naked might be a good thing. Overall, I do NOT think this improve body-image or helps develop self-respect.
So, could this story mean we are now paying more attention to the messages we send girls? Could it mean that we see our girls need guidance? Are we changing the message?
(Sigh) I know. Probably not.